Pre-marital sex is a term forbidden in Indian society, and the minds of most men, even though Indian testosterone seems to be the one with maximum rush, on the premise of the fast growing teenage pregnancy rate, increased rate of rape crimes and sex before marriage. On the streets, one can easily find a girl passing and three crotches being scratched. Recently, there have been much talks about the westernisation in India. Westernisation in clothes, in what people watch, the way people talk and the cultural influence. We have all readily accepted all the fruits from the western tree, but somehow retained the age-old roots of some ancient tree. This not only includes the change in cultural and spiritual beliefs but also the physical needs and satisfaction of the body. The Indian Gen-X is ready for having a physical relation. Men now want to live playboy-ish role. How very often one gets to see a guy pretending to be a womanizer from some H-wood movie, or some ultra hot guy buying drinks for a girl. For most of these men, keeping a sexual relation is perfectly fine. No problem with that at all.
But! When a man finds his love or when he gets into an arranged marriage, everything seems beautiful from outside. But from inside, there is a small devil always wanting to ask one question. The question is about the Virginity of the girl. An indian man, who was into a lot of physical relationships himself, suddenly gets into his “Indian cultural roots” and starts believing in the concept of “purity”. Purity for a man simply means the girl’s virginity. The moment a man sees himself getting into a serious relationship, the most important criteria becomes the “purity” of the girl. The moment the answer is negetive, it’s all over for the girl. Nothing bothers the man – the purity in the heart, the love she might be carrying, the talents in her, or even the potential success she might be holding. All that matters to the guy is the broken Hymen.
The effect is so pronounced in today’s date that the number of hymen-rejoining surgeries in India has amplified majorly. Marriages are ending up within the first week when the man realises there was no “seal” in his wife’s body. And one ridiculous myth that is struck in every mind is that the breakage of the Hymen is only because of intercourse. Wrong. A female might lose her hymen due to physical stress, athleticism, over mental stress or masturbation. A broken hymen does not necessarily mean the girl gave up herself to some other man before. And even if she did, then what is the big deal? A man can roam around and plug-in his pubic when and where he wants but as soon as a serious relation builds up, he wants an untouched body? And what about the girl who was once being pulled into getting physical? Of course, the obvious answer is why should I compromise with the purity for someone else’s pleasure. Then what about the girl’s life you have ruined yourself before your current relationship? What about the pain you caused to the girl? Might she not be facing same rejection because of the damage done by you? Why is virginity even a dimension of considering someone’s love? We need to understand that whatever the girl did was her past. That past in which she did not know how things would grow. She had no clue of ending up with someone else. And anyway, if a man can have sex before marriage then why can’t a woman. And is it not stupid to ask for a virgin girl, when men themselves take it away before the marriage?
Virginity does not hold any ground in reckoning a girl’s heart, love, or feelings.
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